Two tales of marriages made, if not in heaven, then somewhere on the Other Side.
A Strange Dream and a Wedding
One of the happiest men that ever journeyed a hundred miles from Michigan took the Toledo express on Saturday at Fremont, bound for Toledo and his home in Michigan. He told a strange story of which the following is the substance:
Some weeks since, while at home in Michigan, he retired to rest after a hard day’s work, and falling asleep dreamed a dream. He appeared to have taken a long journey from “home,” where he had been located for ten years, and had scarcely lost sight of, and where he had lived “a happy old bach,” and never thought of matrimony.
In that dream a vision appeared unto him. He arrived at a place in Ohio which was called Fremont. It appeared that soon after his arrival in that place, he formed the acquaintance of a young lady, and that, after a sort but happy courtship, he married her and returned to his home in Michigan, where he became wealthy, lived happily, and raised a numerous family of children, and in time trotted his grandchildren upon his knee. He then awoke; it was broad daylight, and his mother was at his door calling him down to breakfast.
At the breakfast table he related his dream to the old lady, and she was deeply impressed with it. He told her it was his intention to at once seek out the beautiful creature of whom he had creamed, and the old lady, believing there was a special providence in it, and being also a firm believer in dreams, advised him by all means to go and find her if he could, and if he couldn’t find her to bring back an Ohio girl any way, “for you know,” said she, “the Ohio girls are right smart.” So John packed up his little wardrobe, and took the first train out for Ohio, and lost no time in reaching Fremont.
When he arrived at the place he was surprised to discover that the sign at the depot, containing the name of the place—was an exact duplicate of the one he had seen in his dream and that the depot buildings and the general appearance of the city corresponded exactly with his vision. He put up at the Kepler House and began his search. For two or three days he was unsuccessful, but finally, just before he was on the point of returning home he came face to face with a maiden at the post office.
“’Tis she,” said he, all to himself, and then he walked up manfully and told her his story; his dream, and of his place in Michigan, and frankly asked her to share his lot with him.
She said something about its being sudden; she would rather wait a few days before giving an answer; but he was determined to have there and then, and she finally said she was all his own. He accompanied her to her home, and that evening he told her fond parents all about it. And they pronounced it good. The day following they were married and at once commenced their journey Michiganward.
The man was a fine looking fellow, and so happy that he could scarcely contain himself. He protested roundly that it was the woman he saw in his dram that he had met and married, ad that all, from first to last, had been exactly as he pictured in his dream. The lady was a pleasing appearing, comely looking lady, a few years younger than the man, and seemed to be brim full of fun and to enjoy the novelty of the thing fully as much as her husband. Take them all in all, they were well matched and were doubtless made for each other. He said only one thing was lacking to make his happiness complete, and that was the fulfillment of the latter part of his dream. [Cleveland Leader.]
Belmont Chronicle [St. Clairsville, OH] 14 May 1868: p. 4
SPOOKS MAKE MATCH.
DEPARTED LIFE PARTNERS TELL THEIR RESPECTIVE SPOUSES
TO WED EACH OTHER.
That marriages are made in Heaven is firmly believed by John Wilgus, a prominent merchant and farmer living at Proctorville, a little town in the Ohio valley, below Parkersburg, W. Va., and that belief is shared by his new wife. Both are spiritualists and they were married after an acquaintance of less than a week, because they were told to do so by visitors from the spirit world. R. Wilgus lost his wife several weeks ago and about the same time Mrs. Lizzie Griffin lost her husband.
Before his death Griffin told his wife that he would communicate with her after his death and tell her his wishes. Through a medium he has been doing so. About two weeks ago the message came through a medium from the departed Griffin to his widow that he wanted her to marry John Wilgus. Mrs. Griffin was not aware of the existence of any John Wilgus, but made up her mind that she would follow her husband’s advice if she ever met a man of the name of Wilgus.
About the same time that Mrs. Griffin’s advice came from her departed husband, word came through another medium to Wilgus that his wife wanted him to marry Mrs. Lizzie Griffin. He did not know Mrs. Griffin or even know of her existence, but he started out to find her in accordance with the wishes of his deceased wife. They met. John told his story and she told hers. Both were impressed with the messages from the dead. In spite of the fact that they had never met before, they became engaged at their first meeting and were married within three weeks.
Each, says the New York World, is impressed with the belief that the marriage was ordained on high and that perfect happiness must be the result of their following the spiritual guidance of those who had gone before them.
Washington [DC] Bee 13 December 1902: p. 6
Mrs Daffodil’s Aide-memoire: One can become somewhat cynical after reading too many Spiritualist journals. When spirits arranged marriages, they were usually between a wealthy, elderly gentleman and an attractive young “spirit bride,” who appeared out of the medium’s cabinet robed in virginal white and faded away after no more than a pressure of the hand and a chaste kiss for consummation. The spirit’s trousseau and expenses incidental to the wedding were, of course, heavy, but easily extracted from the besotted groom.
Another story of a girl who wedded a ghost may be found here. The story also appears in The Ghost Wore Black: Ghastly Tales from the Past by Chris Woodyard.
Mrs Daffodil invites you to join her on the curiously named “Face-book,”where you will find a feast of fashion hints, fads and fancies, and historical anecdotes–all of June has been devoted to wedding fads and finery.