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The Bridal Veil: 1886

Brussels wedding veil 1890

THE BRIDAL VEIL.

A pretty, dark-eyed girl began to work it, whose lover was over the sea. She was a French girl, and came of a good family of lacemakers.

“I’ll work my own bridal veil in my leisure time,” she said. “So when Walter comes to marry me I shall be a gay bride.”

But she never finished the veil. Walter came too soon. She married her English lover—as poor as herself—and went with him to London, and the half-finished bridal veil went along, carefully folded away at the bottom of a trunk, and, for the time being quite forgotten.

It may have been forgotten in earnest, during twelve years, for aught I know; certainly it lay that long unnoticed. A lovely ten year old girl was the fairy that broke its long sleep at last. She had dark eyes, like the little peasant of twelve years ago, but Walter’s golden hair.

“Oh! the charming lace!” she cried, clapping her hands and dancing delightedly, as Elise shook it out of the folds. “Dear mamma, what is it‘? and who made it? and why is it but half done? Can I have it for a dress for my doll, mamma?”

The pretty, dark-haired matron laughed and shook her head, and half sighed, and she pressed the delicate fabric to her lips. Then she told her child the history of its making.

“Mamma, teach me to work it,” she said one day. “My fingers are much finer and tinier than yours.”

After that she would bring her little work-basket to her mother’s side and work at a veil for her doll. The facility with which she learned the graceful art was astonishing. At the age of fifteen so expert was she that Elise did not fear to let her take part in the creation of the bridal veil itself, but they worked at it now and then as fancy seized them.

* * * *

Louis Riviere was from France, like Adele’s mother—that had been a bond between them from the first —for Adele loved her mother’s country for her mother’s sake, though she herself was proud of being called English ; and she also loved the young Frenchman.

The happy weeks and months grew into years. Adele was seventeen; it was agreed and promised that when spring-time came she would be Riviere’s bride.

“We must finish the bridal veil,” cried Elise, eagerly. “I tell you, Monsieur Louis, no lady of your proud house ever wore a lace more exquisite and rich. Ah! shall I not be proud when I look at my beautiful child in her marriage robes, and think of the poor little peasant girl of long ago, who toiled at the lace to earn coarse bread so far away over the sea?”

Louis turned quickly at these words, a look of displeased surprise in his dark eyes.

“What peasant girl, madam?” he questioned, uneasily.

“Myself,” she answered, happily, not marking the look or the tone. “What was I but a poor little lacemaker when my generous young lover married me, the father of Adele?”

He answered nothing, and Elise went merrily chatting on, but Adele noticed his suddenly downcast air and gloomed eyes, though she was far from suspecting the cause of either.

His haughty family pride had received a blow. He conceived an absolute but violent dislike to the bridal veil.

“I detest the sight of it!” he cried one evening in a moment of self-forgetfulness, and when he and Adele were alone. “If, indeed, you love me, never work at it in my presence, Adele; and if I dared ask one special favor of you it should be__”

He paused suddenly. She was listening in great surprise.

“Well,” she said, “it should be ___”

“Wear any other veil in the world but that one to be married in!”

She folded her work and let her fair hands fall on it in her lap; one could see those little hands were trembling.

“You ask a singular favor,” she said, with forced quietness. “Are you not aware that my dear mother worked this veil?”

The hot, impulsive temper answered instantly, without a thought: “It is for that reason I hate it!”

“You did not know when first you sought me for a bride that mamma was a lace-worker in France; if you had, perhaps you would not have loved me. Since you have learned this fact you have regretted our engagement. You need not speak; I have seen a change in you—I feel that it is so! But there is no harm done,” she went on, with simple dignity, “since I have learned the truth before it is too late; and so,” she held out to him a little trembling hand, which he took mechanically—“and so I will grant you the favor you covet, my friend. Your bride shall not wear my darling mother’s bridal veil”—here he kissed the hand, and she drew it quickly away—“but that is because I shall not be your bride.”

No need to dwell upon what followed. His prayers, his protestations—humble at first, then angry his tears that had no power in them to sap the strength of her resolution.

Her parents questioned her in vain. She had quarreled with Louis; that was all they could learn. And before a chance for reconciliation came Elise was smitten with mortal illness and died in three days, and Adele, overwhelmed by the awful calamity, was prostrate with brain fever.

At this juncture a summons came to Louis from France, demanding his immediate presence there. Strange changes had taken place. Two of the three lives that had stood between him and the titles and estates of the Marquis de la Riviere had been suddenly swept away, and the third, a frail, delicate child, lay dying. The present marquis, himself a feeble old man, was also at the point of death, so they sent in haste for Louis, as the heir of the dying nobleman.

The news bewildered him. His heart swelled with exultation and delight, but it sank again. Adele! Had he lost Adele?

“I care not for rank or wealth, unless she shares them!” cried his heart. “I will go and implore her pardon.”

A few weeks later he wrote, informing her fully of his strangely altered fortunes and imploring her to pardon and accept once more as her true-love the love of the Marquis de la Riviere.

And the letter never reached her. The house to which it came was empty and deserted, the late happy home was broken up, and the little English girl, for whom a husband and title and fortune were waiting in sunny France, was earning a sorrowful living as lace-maker! Such are some of the strange realities of real life more wonderful than any fiction.

* * * * *

Many a gay belle and brilliant beauty had spread her net to secure the splendid prize of a titled husband. Foremost among the many, Rosalind Hale; she was the fairest and wealthiest of them all; and her golden hair was not unlike Adele’s. She arranged charades, tableaux, plays—in which he should sustain a part with her. It never occurred to her that he was at once too good-natured and too indifferent to refuse.

The tableaux were suggestive enough. One, upon which Miss Hale had quite set her heart, was that of a bridal—need it be said that Louis was the bridegroom, herself the bride‘?

“He will speak, now, surely,” she thought, as she blushed and trembled before him, While the curtain came slowly down. But no, he only bowed as he led her from the platform; and then one of the buttons of his coat caught in her bridal veil. As the marquis stopped to disengage the lace suddenly he uttered a strange cry. It was Adele’s bridal veil.

“I borrowed it of a lace-maker,” Miss Hale said, in reply to his anxious questioning. “I had ordered one like it; but her health is bad and she failed to have it finished in time. So I made her lend me this.”

“Oh, no? very thin and worn and sad,” she said in reply to another question of Louis’; “with fine eyes, but too dull and pale to be called pretty. But an exquisite lace maker. I shall be glad to give you her address if you have any work for her.” Yes, he had work for her—work that they would share together; the blessed work of binding up an almost broken heart, of restoring love and happiness to both their lives.

Pale and thin and somewhat careworn still was the bride of the marquis on her wedding day; but to his eyes—the eyes of faithful love—it was still the sweetest face in the whole world that smiled and wept beneath Elise’s bridal veil. And he kissed the old lace and blessed it, because through it he had found her again.

The Otago [NZ] Witness 2 January 1886: p. 5

Mrs Daffodil’s Aide-memoire:  Suggestive tableaux, indeed!  There is a bit of Blanche Ingram in Miss Hale, although fortunately there is no Bertha Mason Rochester to tear Elise’s veil. One hopes that the Marquis, who, we may observe, is no Mr Rochester, ate a good deal of humble pie before Adele took him back.

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You may read about a sentimental succubus, a vengeful seamstress’s ghost, Victorian mourning gone horribly wrong, and, of course, Mrs Daffodil’s efficient tidying up after a distasteful decapitation in A Spot of Bother: Four Macabre Tales.

 

The Bride’s Dearest Wish in a Wedding Veil: 1921

BRIDAL VEIL SYMBOL OF DREAMS

Your Dearest Wish Woven Into Your Veil of Lace

By Djuna Barnes

New York, Feb. 12. A bride’s dreams woven into her wedding veil! Could anything be more lovely than the hopes of a woman’s heart patterned into a lasting record of exquisite lace?

Helen Clarke does just this. Not only is she a maker of lace but also a weaver of dreams, for the designs of the wedding veils she creates are symbolical, expressing the dearest wish of the bride whose head each is to crown.

PICTURE IN LACE.

“Young girls,” Miss Clarke said, “come to me, blushing and say, ‘I’ve heard that you make lace, and invent figures and designs to portray what one wishes to have come true.’

“The young bride goes on—here in my little private office she tells me the one great desire of her life. Perhaps it is to stay beautiful always, and perhaps it is a wish for a home that shall never know trouble, and perhaps it is only a vague longing to become something greater than she now is, through love.

“She asks me ‘Can you do it?’ and I always answer ‘I can’.”

THE OLDEST BRIDE

The lace maker spread out a gorgeous veil, some seventeen feet long, on which great birds stood, and smaller birds flew away into a moon caught among the branches of a deserted autumn tree. And when she was asked what it all meant she smiled, with something like a break in her voice:

“This,” she said, “is the bridal veil for the oldest woman bride I’ve ever made anything for. She is 64, and when she ordered this she said, ‘It’s soon I’ll be flying away, but it’s a grand time I’ll be having while I stay, and will you put all that into the lace and say nothing to anyone’?”

HOPES BIG AND LITTLE

And so Helen Clarke puts stitch by stitch into bridal gowns and bridal veils, all the little hopes and hopes that are not little.

There it may remain, an indelible record for the bride’s daughter, and her daughter’s daughter, to see and dream about—and understand.

Salt Lake [UT] Telegram 15 February 1921: p. 10

Mrs Daffodil’s Aide-memoire: It is rather startling to find this brief evocation on the dreams of brides written by Djuna Barnes, whose family was, not to put too fine a point on it, appalling in its feckless distain for orthodoxy. For example, among other horrors, the 18-year-old Barnes was forced into an “unofficial” marriage to her father’s mistress’s 52-year-old brother. The explanation for this bridal article is that, in dire need of money, Miss Barnes walked into the offices of the Brooklyn Daily Eagle in 1912 and said, “I can draw and write, and you’d be a fool not to hire me.” They did and for much of the next decade, she wrote everything from theatre reviews to profiles of prize fighters to a piece on how it felt to be force-fed in jail.

She, herself, had an inclusive philosophy of love and wandered the world in search of it. Mrs Daffodil wonders what pattern Miss Barnes would have asked Helen Clarke to weave for her?

A veil-less Djuna Barnes.

A veil-less Djuna Barnes.

Renting a Bridal Veil: An Embarrassment at a Fashionable Wedding : 1910

Wedding veils of 1910

Wedding veils of 1910

RENTING A BRIDAL VEIL

An Incident of a Fashionable Wedding In New York.

Not long ago one of the wealthiest “charge customers” of a well-known department store in New York purchased a $500 wedding veil for her daughter, which was charged to her account and duly delivered. The wedding was a large one and celebrated at high noon in one of the downtown churches.

It happened that one of the girls from a department store went out for luncheon at this hour and, seeing a fashionable wedding in full swing, slipped into the church with the crowd and into one of the back pews. After the ceremony was over she hurried back to her place behind the counter, too busy with her special sales to even think about it.

The next morning, however, when she read an account of the “magnificent wedding in  ___ church and a detailed of the wonderful veil worn by the bride, valued at $500,” she laughingly told her numerous friends in that department that she “had been one of the honored guests and had seen that $500 veil with her own eyes.” Just at this thrilling point of her story one of the floor men stepped up to her and said: “You are wanted at the manager’s office, Miss B.”

As she entered the office, to her perfect amazement, she beheld the identical bridal veil just under discussion.

“Miss B., can you tell me if you ever saw this veil before?” asked the manager.

“Yes, sir; I saw it yesterday.”

“Where did you see it?”

She took from her pocket the clipping from the morning newspaper with the account of the great wedding, the costly veil and a picture of the bride. Laying it upon the desk, she said: “This is a picture of the veil.”

“How did you happen to be at this wedding instead of in your place here in the store?”

“It was my luncheon hour, and I went to the wedding instead of to lunch.”

The manager smiled.

“Can you positively identify this veil as the one you saw yesterday?”

Miss B. took it up in her hands and, unfolding it, ran her fingers through the mesh and into the tiny folds where the orange blossoms were caught, then with some difficulty picked out three little pieces of rice and handed them to the manager.

She went back to her counter, and the “charge customer,” whose accounts number in the thousands each year, was rendered a bill for $300 for “the use of a bridal veil worn by her daughter.”

A check for the $300 was immediately sent, and the wealthy “charge customer” still continues to charge. Chicago Record-Herald.

Evening News [San Jose, CA] 30 April 1910: p. 2

Mrs Daffodil’s Aide-memoire: Hiring all the old-money trappings of a wedding was commonplace among the nouveau riche. One could hire gifts of silver and crystal (marked with affectionate cards from “Uncle”), jewels, “family” lace, and even an enormous cheque, to be prominently displayed on the gifts table and then returned. Even odder was the hiring of a professional father of the bride:

An Odd Business

A London firm which rents wedding gowns to brides also furnishes a “father” to give the bride away when the marriage takes place too far away from home to admit of parents and relatives being present. This professional father, as he might be appropriately called, is an ex-major in the army and a member of a fine old family, but he is poor and willingly gives away a bride for a small money consideration. He is said to look like a model father, with snowy hair and a kind and lovable expression. Sometimes he is called upon to manage a wedding breakfast, and he is said to be a charming speaker. Surely this is one of the oddest professions of advanced days. The Wichita [KS] Daily Eagle 5 September 1897: p.12

WEDDING GIFTS HIRED

Scheme Resorted To By London’s Pretentious Aristocracy.

[Pearson’s Weekly.]

“One of the latest things in economy is the hiring instead of buying of wedding presents,” said a London silversmith and jeweler, in the course of a conversation with a reporter. It started in a small way two years ago and has steadily developed until now, when it may be considered quite a recognized thing.

“Of course it originated in the common desire to make a big show before friends for which there is no better opportunity than a wedding. We send out a surprising quantity of goods to be exhibited as presents; indeed, we turn over more money in this way than we do in the ordinary course of business with wedding gifts, although we do perhaps as much in that line as any firm in London.

“Who hires the presents? Oh, the bride’s parents, generally speaking; occasionally the bride herself does it, and we have lent wedding presents up to the value of £16,000 and to some of the best families in England, too.

“We have a big set of dinner knives and forks, in a handsome case, which was originally priced at £45. In the last two years we have made over £90 by letting this out on hire and still have it almost as good as new, so we have no occasion to grumble with this remarkable scheme.

“I need not tell you that we protect ourselves thoroughly. We insure every article before it is lent and require to be paid the full value of the article, for the time being, and in the event of its being lost or unreturned, this money is forfeited.

Cincinnati [OH] Enquirer 7 August 1897: p. 14

Mrs Daffodil has previously written about a precious heirloom lace wedding veil whose sale led to much happiness for a couple.

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